I don't want to zoom celebrate Thanksgiving. This year I put out a bowl of candy with a sign that said "Be Kind To The Person Behind" and I watched on my Ring as a greedy kid dressed up as Sponge Bob pawed the bucket into his pillowcase. I knew things were close to bottom when I couldn't find anything to spend my ShopBop gift certificate on. Even shopping has lost its joy.
Luckily this is my 3rd or 4th round of my grief cycle, so I have a few tricks up my sleeve. Wake up every day at the same time; drink less than a bottle of wine each night, eat well, brush my hair and oh yeah:
... It's time to get dressed. I don't necessarily love the idea either, but... for the love of self, let's do it. It's like keeping a schedule, (which I also hate) it gives your chaotic feeling life some order. I am using so many words right now that usually make me anxious, but my stages of grief in this pandemic have been MANY and I think taking control of the things you can take control of is important to ending the BLAH feelings that are creeping inside my heart!! I wore a dress the other day and the look on my boyfriend's face (confusion, anxiety, fear) helped me realize... It's time to get dressed
I also think that I can only do so many things at once, so for right now: I want the Reeses pumpkins; pizza; wine, but I'll trade you for getting dressed, exercising and putting on mascara and lip gloss (chapstick counts).
Looking good is an easy way to get ya feeling good! I swear I'm not just saying it, it's true. Looking good. Feeling good. It's a thing.
Luckily, we make getting dressed easy. Put on a dress: done. These days you don't even need shoes! Can't get out of your sweatpants? No problem. I love my chambray shirt or oxford button down with my stretchiest of sweats. No bra needed. A maxi doubles as my robe when I need to go to the mailbox. Even though I am wearing my Ugg slippers people are still stopping and staring because I look so fancy. Getting dressed made me productive today while wine and chocolate made my pants go up a size. One thing at a time.
Do yourself a favor.